1 Simple action to meeting new people

I wish I knew how many times my teachers in school told me how many times I'd need geometry and algebra in my life, because- I'd love to tell them that they were horrifically wrong.  What I really needed to know, was how to meet new people.
Unfortunately, many people assume going to school is enough to teach you how to meet  new people and socialize. I'm living proof that that is a huge, big fat, enormous- LIE.  You see,  throwing someone into a room full of elephants does not teach you to become an elephant. It teaches you how to be afraid for your life and how to hide and be the mouse. But, just as the mouse is scared of the elephant- the elephant is just as scared of the mouse.
You, little mouse, have great potential!

What people need to really learn in school- is how to meet people. Business especially, is dependent on your skill to meet new people and form relationships!  But as I go along leading men and women into success, I am coming to realize that people really don't know HOW to meet people!

I must admit, when I first started my business, I didn't know how to meet new people either! I was stuck, trapped, inside my comfort zone! I insisted that I didn't have one, but- now- I know I do.
Sometimes meeting new people brings on a lot of anxiety for me. Even calling people on the phone can create a near panic attack for me. I have gone through so much in my life that every new interaction or new call can feel like a confrontation, and I dread hearing "no" or the possibility of rejection. But, now, almost 3 complete years into this journey- I'm learning. There are a lot more willing people than unwilling, if you play your cards right.

So, today I want to teach you the very simple art of "meeting" people.  You are going to be amazed at how simple this is. Whether you are online, or out in the real world it all comes down to this ONE action step.  Just one simple thing.  Ready for it?

Say HELLO.  That's it. I'm serious. It's all about starting a conversation with people! Say hello and then give them a genuine compliment and see where the conversation leads you!  It's REALLY that simple!

Sometimes, you will get a hot new lead, sometimes you make a great new friend and sometimes you will get a hot new success team mate! But you will not progress quickly or maybe not at all if you never open your mouth (or the message box) and start a conversation!

 You don't need to be salesy or pushy at all. Just meet people, be their friend and build your relationships. When the right moment comes, the opportunity will present itself and they will listen, because they trust you.

What exactly are you "Affirming"?

affirmation noun

1.

the act or an instance of affirming; state of being affirmed.

2.

the assertion that something exists or is true.

3.

something that is affirmed; a statement or proposition that is declared to be true.

4.

confirmation or ratification of the truth or validity of a prior judgment, decision, etc

5.

Law. a solemn declaration accepted instead of a statement under oath.



When I first started in my business, I was told often to "fake it till you make it".  Well, I wasn't really sure what exactly that meant. I figured- I was just supposed to lie about things until they were true. But, now almost 3 years later, I have found a better understanding. While that was taught with good intention, there really is a more honest, and fulfilling way to get your business rolling.  Affirmations.

As defined above, an affirmation is admitting that something is true. Or- will be true.  For instance-  "I will have dinner".  We know this is true, because you will get hungry, and you will do anything and everything you can to find food and eat.

But, we must be careful. Especially as business people.  Affirmations can make or break you. It is absolutely possible to be affirming the NEGATIVE things!  "I can't find hostesses", "I can't book parties", "I can't sell the product". Those are negative affirmations!  See, if you say something enough, you begin to believe it. And then guess what, it's true, because- you've convinced yourself it's true so that is what you've attracted to yourself.

Start making positive affirmations- "I book parties every day!", "My calendar is always booked!", "I have the fastest growing team this month!"

Write them down every day- pick 5 and rotate them through the week.  Say them out loud, add them to your vision board and dream boards!  Get used to telling your customers and clients these positive affirmations about yourself, "I am on the fast track to the top of the company!", "My sales are paying for my mortgage!", "I am going on the company cruise in 2016!".

Say them because you believe it! Say them as if it's already true, and pretty soon, you'll be so shocked at the results that they really ARE true!  Here are 6 affirmations I use every day.

I am beautiful!
I meet new customers and hostesses every day!
My team grows daily.
Money is available to me, and I can have it anytime I want.
Everything I need and want, I can have, because I am successful.
My calendar is always full!

I began using affirmations consistently beginning August of 2014. In that time, my team has grown by 26 people~ !

Here is a link to an article with 42 more affirmations and a little more information about them! Make a change today, start affirming positive things and see where it takes you!

 

This is Me, being Brave.

This is me. Amanda Frampus. Mom of 4 boys.

I have to tell you a story. 

I was kinda picked on in school. I was pretty quiet and shy- kinda a loner. I was that "christian girl"- I didn't date anyone from my school, I had one or two friends- but pretty much- it was just me. I spent a lot of time alone in my room- or playing with my sister. Sports were hard for me. I wasn't gifted at music, sports, or anything- I am kinda good at writing- but, I'm no author. Anyway- away from my hometown- was a different story. I went to Bible camp from the time I could stay the night alone- (I'm pretty sure it started with family camp, then kids camps, then teen camp...and the big one- the conventions). At camp- I was someone. I could open up and be the total and complete weird nerd that I am- and- it was embraced- complimented- adored. I LOVED camp! 
Anyway- so, as I grew up- I kinda stuck to that loner type life. You know- just me my family and I. Kinda quiet and qwerky. I don't like a lot of drama, and loud noisy stuff. I like quiet music and overcast days. I like naps. But- it's kinda lonely, too. 
And then it so happened that I find myself in a direct sales company- where uh- it gets pretty loud sometimes. lol. I kinda found a little family in here. I have found hundreds of women and men- who are a bit qwerky. And, I feel at home! 
So this business kind of challenges me a lot. Not just the challenge of being a work at home parent and having to manage our time and budget wisely. You know- all that grown up stuff. But also getting way outside a comfort zone. I remember telling my sponsor- "I went and bought some hair flowers, because- I'm not sure I can pull off the big flower look." 
And- I also specifically remember when I first started, saying something like, "I don't have a comfort zone. I'm ready to do whatever it takes." 
Well hello- I found my limits. lol. I'm willing and able to push past them. But, I've definitely found the edge of my box. 
Now you may look at me taking "selfies" and say oh there she goes again, promoting her business. But let me spill the beans for you. I'm not JUST promoting my business- because, well let's face it- I really am my best and most affordable advertisement campaign. But, I am showing you something else, too. 
I am showing you me.

 This is ....ME. I am a normal mom with 4 kids who battles with things like depression, self consciousness, my weight... all those "normal" adulthood things. 

Recently, I've been wearing hippie headbands. It darn near gives me a panic attack leaving the house wearing one. I adore them- they are sooooo cute! I love the way they look on everyone else and you bet I can style YOU up to look fantastic in them as well. But on ME. I think I look ridiculous. This was a comfort zone issue. See- we didn't have hippie headbands when I first started. So no problems, right? 

Isn't she GORGEOUS?! 

I tell you what. It takes a lot of courage for me to take a picture and post it on every social media outlet I use. It's scary. I constantly think someone is going to make a snide comment about how it's not "me". 
But- ever since I was in high school- I had an aunt who would tell me- "you have a hippie girl spirit".

Anyway- look at me not being an author- right? I just wanted you to know- that it's not always just a ploy to get you to buy stuff. Sometimes, it's just me taking a step out of my box and believing in myself that I AM beautiful. Sometimes it's just me being brave!

A day I felt completely ridiculous.