What do you do when you feel wronged by your company?

Recently, I've been attempting to be a better leader by taking some simple steps- that no doubt scare me. Part of the reason this scares me, is because- I am so uncomfortable with confrontation, I am literally scared of being yelled at.  But, I know that my business will never grow, if I don't just deal with it and move past it.  I have to learn to deal with these situations, so that I can continue doing what I love.

I want to discuss how to deal with situations that make you feel like throwing in the towel.
Every business is going to have some major bumps in the road, and without doubt, you will come across a situation that really fires you up.  You are going to want to quit. You are going to want to talk bad about someone or something in your company.  But, I really want to encourage you to not do that.

Business is built on relationships.  And while you might be feeling like someone, or the company, doesn't care about you- you have to remember there is someone out there who is looking at you, too. They are watching your actions, they are seeing how you deal with stress. They are looking up to you. And if you throw a fit, stomp and throw your fists- they are going to feel like YOU don't care about them.  You are someone to somebody.  And they want to learn from you.

If you truly love doing what you've been doing, sometimes you just have to take the less traveled tour- and, push past your feelings of hurt and thoughts of "they don't care". The truth is, if they didn't care- they wouldn't have even offered the opportunity in the first place.

To even throw out the term "they don't care about me, why should I care about them"- without having ever even met or TALKED to the founders/ceo's of the company to find out their vision- is childish.

Major companies and corporations are tied up so often with legal knots. I'm sure they would LOVE to bend over this way or duck under that way to help you, but they literally just can NOT do it- no matter how special you are.

Imagine the pickle they would be in if they made a special exception for everyone in a special circumstance. They wouldn't be a very stable and firm business model, would they?

Many times the problems and issues we come up against are clearly outlined for us to avoid in the fine print. If anything offers you a terms and conditions agreement to sign, or a policy to agree to- read it and understand that sometimes unforseen things happen, and sometimes there will be no way to rectify a problem that came up. And it's not that the company is looking down on you, or doesn't care about you or that you aren't special and valuable to them. Sometimes, it's just a knot they can't untie.  Sometimes it's a knot that might be holding the company in place so that you can continue doing something that you love to do.

When you can tell me that you love the look on people's faces when they find out you are coming over, or are going to be at this place or that, or that they light up when you tell them the price or what the product is- and, you tell me how good that makes you feel to offer something like that to your friends, family and customers-  then it's worth it to forgive and move on.  It's worth it to take a breath, count to ten and keep going.  The world is not out to get you. They cannot take your passion from you. This is something that can be worked out, you can get past this.  I promise.

After all, that is what this business is all about- To change the lives of our Consultants and their customers by providing fashionable and affordable accessories, and by providing an opportunity to financially benefit their lives and the lives of their families in a positive way.

6 Simple Steps to Leadership

There is no doubt that inside each of us, lies a leader dying to get out.  When you join a MLM type company you already have it in your mind that you might grow a team. The pull of residual income is a powerful thing, and- rightly so!  But, many of us do not even know where to begin when it comes to being the leader.  It can actually become very overwhelming and frustrating if you are not well prepared.  Sometimes, it kind of takes one by surprise, when you open yourself up for success and it really happens! Here are some quick, never fail, go to things you can do to always be the cool, confident and well prepared leader.

1.  Know your stuff. Even if you are new to this type of business, begin learning all you can about your company, and business.  YouTube and Google are your friend- there is tons of free training out there you can piece together to get your style.  You don't have to "know it all", but begin to familiarize yourself with all things business.  Know who you can contact in case you come into a situation where you don't know it all.  Know your policies and procedures, know your up-line or the founders.

2. Be available.  Many times, all you need to do is be available and listen.  But also, remember to set your boundaries. You probably don't want people calling at 2 am- so set your hours.  If you begin to be available 24-7, you will be contacted 24-7 and they will take advantage of that and become upset if you suddenly aren't available. Make it clear they can message and email anytime they want, but you will only be available via phone and to reply during xx time and xx time. And, stick to it.

3. Make use of a schedule or planner.  Use checklists and stick to it.  Block out time for each task. Getting into a daily routine is one of the most useful of all tips and tricks.  Consistency is so important. Consistency is duplicate-able. When your team can duplicate what you do, the entire team is prepared for anything.

4. Don't forget your "Why". Why did you start your business? What propels you? What motivates you to keep going? Review it often, as it will change over time.  Share your why with your team. They want to know your story. If you hold back- this will challenge the relationship.  They need to connect with you, and build trust with you.

5. Take time to rest and recharge. You can't go at it 24-7. You will burn out, become agitated and fizzle quickly.  You need to let your brain rest. Clear out the junk in your mind, and make room for new ideas, new growth and new opportunities.

6. Be open to change and growth. Always grow your network, build it daily. Add to your list each day, follow up and connect.  But, be open to finding new ways to lead, new ways to network, new ways to sell. Be an example to your team by continuing to grow, network, learn new tips, tricks and techniques. Never stop seeking knowledge.  You never know who's watching you, and you never know who's going to be the next person to teach you something incredible!

1 Simple action to meeting new people

I wish I knew how many times my teachers in school told me how many times I'd need geometry and algebra in my life, because- I'd love to tell them that they were horrifically wrong.  What I really needed to know, was how to meet new people.
Unfortunately, many people assume going to school is enough to teach you how to meet  new people and socialize. I'm living proof that that is a huge, big fat, enormous- LIE.  You see,  throwing someone into a room full of elephants does not teach you to become an elephant. It teaches you how to be afraid for your life and how to hide and be the mouse. But, just as the mouse is scared of the elephant- the elephant is just as scared of the mouse.
You, little mouse, have great potential!

What people need to really learn in school- is how to meet people. Business especially, is dependent on your skill to meet new people and form relationships!  But as I go along leading men and women into success, I am coming to realize that people really don't know HOW to meet people!

I must admit, when I first started my business, I didn't know how to meet new people either! I was stuck, trapped, inside my comfort zone! I insisted that I didn't have one, but- now- I know I do.
Sometimes meeting new people brings on a lot of anxiety for me. Even calling people on the phone can create a near panic attack for me. I have gone through so much in my life that every new interaction or new call can feel like a confrontation, and I dread hearing "no" or the possibility of rejection. But, now, almost 3 complete years into this journey- I'm learning. There are a lot more willing people than unwilling, if you play your cards right.

So, today I want to teach you the very simple art of "meeting" people.  You are going to be amazed at how simple this is. Whether you are online, or out in the real world it all comes down to this ONE action step.  Just one simple thing.  Ready for it?

Say HELLO.  That's it. I'm serious. It's all about starting a conversation with people! Say hello and then give them a genuine compliment and see where the conversation leads you!  It's REALLY that simple!

Sometimes, you will get a hot new lead, sometimes you make a great new friend and sometimes you will get a hot new success team mate! But you will not progress quickly or maybe not at all if you never open your mouth (or the message box) and start a conversation!

 You don't need to be salesy or pushy at all. Just meet people, be their friend and build your relationships. When the right moment comes, the opportunity will present itself and they will listen, because they trust you.

What exactly are you "Affirming"?

affirmation noun

1.

the act or an instance of affirming; state of being affirmed.

2.

the assertion that something exists or is true.

3.

something that is affirmed; a statement or proposition that is declared to be true.

4.

confirmation or ratification of the truth or validity of a prior judgment, decision, etc

5.

Law. a solemn declaration accepted instead of a statement under oath.



When I first started in my business, I was told often to "fake it till you make it".  Well, I wasn't really sure what exactly that meant. I figured- I was just supposed to lie about things until they were true. But, now almost 3 years later, I have found a better understanding. While that was taught with good intention, there really is a more honest, and fulfilling way to get your business rolling.  Affirmations.

As defined above, an affirmation is admitting that something is true. Or- will be true.  For instance-  "I will have dinner".  We know this is true, because you will get hungry, and you will do anything and everything you can to find food and eat.

But, we must be careful. Especially as business people.  Affirmations can make or break you. It is absolutely possible to be affirming the NEGATIVE things!  "I can't find hostesses", "I can't book parties", "I can't sell the product". Those are negative affirmations!  See, if you say something enough, you begin to believe it. And then guess what, it's true, because- you've convinced yourself it's true so that is what you've attracted to yourself.

Start making positive affirmations- "I book parties every day!", "My calendar is always booked!", "I have the fastest growing team this month!"

Write them down every day- pick 5 and rotate them through the week.  Say them out loud, add them to your vision board and dream boards!  Get used to telling your customers and clients these positive affirmations about yourself, "I am on the fast track to the top of the company!", "My sales are paying for my mortgage!", "I am going on the company cruise in 2016!".

Say them because you believe it! Say them as if it's already true, and pretty soon, you'll be so shocked at the results that they really ARE true!  Here are 6 affirmations I use every day.

I am beautiful!
I meet new customers and hostesses every day!
My team grows daily.
Money is available to me, and I can have it anytime I want.
Everything I need and want, I can have, because I am successful.
My calendar is always full!

I began using affirmations consistently beginning August of 2014. In that time, my team has grown by 26 people~ !

Here is a link to an article with 42 more affirmations and a little more information about them! Make a change today, start affirming positive things and see where it takes you!

 

This is Me, being Brave.

This is me. Amanda Frampus. Mom of 4 boys.

I have to tell you a story. 

I was kinda picked on in school. I was pretty quiet and shy- kinda a loner. I was that "christian girl"- I didn't date anyone from my school, I had one or two friends- but pretty much- it was just me. I spent a lot of time alone in my room- or playing with my sister. Sports were hard for me. I wasn't gifted at music, sports, or anything- I am kinda good at writing- but, I'm no author. Anyway- away from my hometown- was a different story. I went to Bible camp from the time I could stay the night alone- (I'm pretty sure it started with family camp, then kids camps, then teen camp...and the big one- the conventions). At camp- I was someone. I could open up and be the total and complete weird nerd that I am- and- it was embraced- complimented- adored. I LOVED camp! 
Anyway- so, as I grew up- I kinda stuck to that loner type life. You know- just me my family and I. Kinda quiet and qwerky. I don't like a lot of drama, and loud noisy stuff. I like quiet music and overcast days. I like naps. But- it's kinda lonely, too. 
And then it so happened that I find myself in a direct sales company- where uh- it gets pretty loud sometimes. lol. I kinda found a little family in here. I have found hundreds of women and men- who are a bit qwerky. And, I feel at home! 
So this business kind of challenges me a lot. Not just the challenge of being a work at home parent and having to manage our time and budget wisely. You know- all that grown up stuff. But also getting way outside a comfort zone. I remember telling my sponsor- "I went and bought some hair flowers, because- I'm not sure I can pull off the big flower look." 
And- I also specifically remember when I first started, saying something like, "I don't have a comfort zone. I'm ready to do whatever it takes." 
Well hello- I found my limits. lol. I'm willing and able to push past them. But, I've definitely found the edge of my box. 
Now you may look at me taking "selfies" and say oh there she goes again, promoting her business. But let me spill the beans for you. I'm not JUST promoting my business- because, well let's face it- I really am my best and most affordable advertisement campaign. But, I am showing you something else, too. 
I am showing you me.

 This is ....ME. I am a normal mom with 4 kids who battles with things like depression, self consciousness, my weight... all those "normal" adulthood things. 

Recently, I've been wearing hippie headbands. It darn near gives me a panic attack leaving the house wearing one. I adore them- they are sooooo cute! I love the way they look on everyone else and you bet I can style YOU up to look fantastic in them as well. But on ME. I think I look ridiculous. This was a comfort zone issue. See- we didn't have hippie headbands when I first started. So no problems, right? 

Isn't she GORGEOUS?! 

I tell you what. It takes a lot of courage for me to take a picture and post it on every social media outlet I use. It's scary. I constantly think someone is going to make a snide comment about how it's not "me". 
But- ever since I was in high school- I had an aunt who would tell me- "you have a hippie girl spirit".

Anyway- look at me not being an author- right? I just wanted you to know- that it's not always just a ploy to get you to buy stuff. Sometimes, it's just me taking a step out of my box and believing in myself that I AM beautiful. Sometimes it's just me being brave!

A day I felt completely ridiculous. 

Ten places to meet new customers/hostesses/teammates OUTSIDE of Facebook

Where in the world do you meet people? Here are 10 common places to meet new people! 

1- in your daily errands; The post office, grocery store, hair salon, gas station, clinic, the bank. Every clerk, cashier, teller, service person should get a card. You don't even have to say a word, just hand the card over or leave it on the counter. 
2- Meetup.com ; use this to find local meetings for networking, mommy groups, play groups, coffee clubs, book clubs, etc. 
3- Take a walk around your neighborhood and talk to a neighbor you don't know.
4- The gym.
5- The Laundromat. Even if you have your own washer and dryer- make an excuse to go there.
6- Take up a hobby, like shooting, archery, horseback riding, scrap-booking, journaling, stamping, card-making, pen-paling, ceramics, pottery, painting...etc.
7- Church.
8- Start your own interest group- host it at your house.
9- The coffee shop/bakery/mall- compliment random strangers on their jewelry and ask them if it's Paparazzi.
10- Go to one new restaurant a month- and leave the waitress a tip, your card and a piece of jewelry.

Go OUT into the world and be a royal Paparazzi princess! 

How to change your Bad day into a GREAT day in 3 minutes!

Everyone repeat after me (and look in the mirror)~

I am healthy.

I am strong.

I am beautiful.

I love my family. 

I love my business.

I love my life.

I like my house.

I like my job.

I like my friends.

I am powerful.

My words are powerful.

I will only use my words for positive things.

I get bookings all the time, customers come to me every day. My calendar is always full.

There is always money available to me, for me and for my family.

I will do everything today in a positive way, and keep a positive attitude.

I will find the bright side to every situation today.

Today is a good day.

Today is a GREAT day.

Today is the most awesome day of the month!

I was born to do this.....this life.

And, tomorrow- wake up and do it again. The next day, too. Daily affirmations are a really powerful tool. The way you talk to yourself has significant impacts on how you treat your family, friends, business, prospects- EVERYTHING. If you don't feel good- you probably don't make others feel good. Being positive and happy is contagious. So wake up every day and be your own cheerleader. Love yourself- love ON yourself and start speaking these affirmations into your life. Say it out loud. I do it every day. If I don't tell myself I am beautiful- I feel ugly, and when I feel ugly- I get ugly. I've grown up a lot the past 20 years. I used to have a lot of anger issues- but, I noticed that I was always putting myself down. When I made a choice to intentionally change my life- I had to teach myself to speak positively to myself. Life is not easy. Business- is not easy. But, it's rewarding. It's fulfilling. It's totally up to YOU. No one else. Just you. That's it- that's all you have to do. Just change the way you speak to yourself. Take 3 minutes every day to change  your entire life!  Feed yourself good things. If you can't believe what you tell yourself- how will you expect others to believe in you?  Change your mindset and see what happens!